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TOO MUCH IN THE DM's
Ready to crack the code of online dating and DM etiquette? Want to slide into those DMs with respect, authenticity, and finesse? Join me, your host k-love, as we uncover the secrets to making a lasting impression without crossing any boundaries. This episode is brimming with insights on reading profile cues, creating engaging opening lines, and the artistry of handling rejection with grace. We're not just talking about finding a partner; we're talking about building meaningful conversations and lasting connections.
From the nuances of virtual communication to the pitfalls of being 'too much in the DMs', we've got it all covered. We stress on the significance of the content, timing, and consent of our exchanges, emphasizing the need to be mindful and responsible. But that's not all. We dive deep into the practical aspects of online dating - how to show interest without infringing on someone's space, how to be positive and authentic, and how to accept 'no' with dignity and respect. It's not just about the chase; it's about the conversation. So tune in, learn, and let's redefine the way we DM!
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Hey, hey, hey, loves. Welcome back to Love Our Talks, the podcast where we dive into juicy topics on all things dating, love, relationships, wellness and entertainment. I am your host, k-love, and today, honey, we are diving into a juicy topic, and this topic is about too much in the DMs. So get comfy and let's get real. So, how to avoid being too much in the DMs? See, online dating can be a fun and convenient way to meet new people and find potential partners. However, it can also be tricky and challenging to navigate, especially when it comes to communicating through direct messages. Your DMs and for those that don't know what a DM is, they are private messages that you can send to another user on a dating app or social media platform. Okay, they can be a great way to start a conversation, express your interest or do a little flirting with someone that you like Okay. So, however, they can also be a source of annoyance, frustration or even harassment If you are not careful about how you use them. So, yeah, one of the common pitfalls of online dating is being too much in the DMs. This means sending messages that are inappropriate, unwanted, excessive or disrespectful to the other person. Being too much in the DMs can ruin your chances of making a good impression, building a connection or getting a date. It can also make you look desperate, creepy or rude. Moreover, it can cause harm or distress to the other person and even get you reported or blocked like eh get no, go, okay. So how can you avoid being too much in the DMs? Here are some tips for you. Okay, I got you See, I got you. Listen up for this. Number one respect. Respect is paramount in online dating. Before sending a DM, take a moment to read the other person's profile thoroughly. Look for any cues about their boundaries, interests and preferences. If they mention that they prefer slow and meaningful conversations or have specific deal breakers, get those boundaries okay. If they say they are not interested, just stop contacting them. If they ask you to stop sending certain types of messages or images, please comply with their request. It's just as simple as that. Just comply with it and let it go.
Speaker 1:You also want to start with a thoughtful opener, like an icebreaker, right? The first message you send typically sets the tone for your interaction. Instead of using generic pickup lines or overly flirtatious language, start with a thoughtful opener. Mention something specific from their profile to show that you've taken the time to read it and you're genuinely interested in getting to know them. Then you want to gauge their response, engaging their response. Pay attention to how the other person responds to your messages. If they seem engaged or interested, that's the positive side to continue the conversation. However, if they respond with one word answers or don't respond at all, take it as a cue to back off and just give them space.
Speaker 1:You don't want to send messages that are too short, vague or generic unless you have nothing else to say. You also don't want to send messages that are too long, detailed or complicated unless you have something important to share A voice in, a messages that are too frequent, repetitive or intrusive unless you have permission or it's an urgent matter. You want to be mindful and responsible because you don't want to come off as if you're spamming, stalking or simply harassing the other person. You want more of a quality over quantity. You want to avoid bombarding the other person with the flurry of messages. Quality matters more than quantity. Instead of sending multiple messages in quick succession, take the time to craft meaningful and engaging responses. Give them space to respond at their own pace. Be mindful of timing. Consider the timing of your messages. It's important to be respectful of the other person's schedule and their time zone. Because you're on a dating app, you just got to be mindful of where they live and things like that. Sending messages late at night or during work hours may not be well received.
Speaker 1:You want to also avoid inappropriate content. Never send unsolicited explicit photos. Please don't do that. Also, no explicit languages or any content that could be considered offensive or disrespectful. Consent and respect is non-negotiable. Okay, I'm going to say this again Consent and respect is non-negotiable. You want to be appropriate and relevant. Do not send messages that are too sexual, vulgar or graphic unless you have established mutual consent and interest. Also, avoid sending messages that are too personal, intimate or emotional unless you have built trust in that report. Messages that are too random or just boring or irrelevant unless you have a reason or context. Thank you, you want to pretty much come off authentic. You don't want to lie, deceive or misrepresent yourself or your intentions. Avoid, please avoid this other one. Please Avoid using fake or stolen photos or profiles.
Speaker 1:You don't want to be catfishing somebody or ghosting. Ghosting is not fine, so just be straight up with them. Let them know what it is that you're not interested. You want to be positive and respectful, because being negative, pessimistic, sarcastic and cynical could result in them just simply awarding you. You can be humorous if you have a sense of humor and have already established that report as well. Also, do not send messages that are too flattering, complementary or romantic unless you have pretty much established those genuine feelings or intentions with that person.
Speaker 1:At the end of the day, everyone is going to perceive you how they perceive you, and if they're not interested, you have to be okay and accept rejection gracefully. Not every conversation will lead to a connection and that's okay. If the other person expresses disinterest or politely declines your advances, just accept it gracefully. There's no need to push or argue. Just respect their decision and keep it moving Okay. So by following these tips and guidelines, you can avoid being too much in the DMs and instead be just right in the DMs.
Speaker 1:You can use DMs as a way to communicate effectively, respectfully and appropriately with your online matches. You also use your DMs as a way to showcase your personality, your interests and your charm to your potential days. The goal is to create meaningful conversations, connections and relationships with your online partners. And remember that DMs are not just words on the screen. They are expressions of yourself and your intentions to another human being. Therefore, be mindful of what you say and how you say it in the DMs, Because you never know, your next DM could be the start of something wonderful.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right, love listeners. That wraps up today's episode on Too Much in the DMs. What's your take on it? Have you experienced this or have you been the one being too much in the DMs? Let's talk about it. So slide on into my DMs respectfully, or just simply hit me up in the comments and let's get this discussion, this conversation, started. Don't forget to like, subscribe and download our podcast and share it. Follow us on Spotify, apple iTunes, iheartradio and we are now on Google Podcasts and, of course, on Facebook for more juicy topics like this. And thank you all for joining me today. Until next time, we love our talks. I'm your host, k-love, and remember, go out, do something great, achieve great things, because, guess what, you are great and you're destined to be successful. All right, love you guys. Bye.