The Power of Relationship Contracts Pt.1 Finale

Are you ready to redefine the roadmap of your relationship for the new year? Embark on a transformative journey with me, k-love, as we delve into the world of relationship contracts and their potential to sculpt a partnership that's truly tailored to your shared vision. This isn't just about setting boundaries—it's about creating a blueprint for love that resonates with the rhythm of your hearts. As we navigate the intimate intricacies of crafting a contract together, you'll discover the art of aligning on your dreams, managing life's practicalities, and fostering a nurturing environment for both your needs to flourish.

Sit back, or better yet, lean in with that pen and paper as we dissect the steps to establish a relationship contract that's as dynamic and evolving as the two of you. From honing in on your deepest desires to setting priorities that propel you forward, you'll learn to speak a common language that supports your shared wellbeing. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that's all about growth, understanding, and intention—pillars for a sturdy, loving partnership. Let's toast to the new year with a commitment to love, intention, and togetherness that lasts well beyond the honeymoon phase.

Thank you joining  Love Our Talks and listening to these juicy topics!

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:25

Hey, hey, hey, loves. Welcome to another episode of Love, our Talks, the podcast where we dive into all things juicy about love, dating, relationships, entertainment and wellness. I am your host, k-love, and it has been a lot going on, you know, the last few months, the last couple of months actually, with my birthday month in November and, of course, the holidays celebrations, as we, I'm sure, all enjoyed spending times with our loved ones and just loving on each and every one and just, you know, just having a great time. But as we start out the new year on a good note, okay, because it is the new year, it's 2024. So, as we start out on a good note, today we'll be wrapping up the power of relationship contracts. Okay, I'll be breaking this down into two different segments for you so that you'll get a chance to digest everything. I'll be giving you key ways to customize it to fit your unique needs and preferences as a couple. So why don't you go ahead, grab a pen and paper and take notes while I give you the steps to consider for customizing one very effectively, all right.

Speaker 1: 1:43

So, first of all, you want number one you want to have open and honest communication. You want to start by having conversations with your partner about the contract. You want to make sure that you're on the same page. Okay, you want to make sure that this is something you agree upon in doing is a contract together. I discussed why you both want it and what specific aspect of the contract you'd like to address, because sometimes you can have different views of things, but you want to kind of come to agree upon it amicably and just make sure that you're together with this. Number two you want to define your goals. So clearly define the goals of the contract. What do you hope to achieve through this process? Is it to improve communication, set boundaries or establish financial agreements? So that's something that you guys have to come up together and just see what fits for you, okay. So number three identify key areas. Determine the areas you want the contract to cover. Common areas could include things like communication, boundaries, finances, intimacy, responsibilities and future goals. And I'll go back to intimacy because with women, our bodies go through a lot of different things. So we kind of want to make sure, with our partner, that we're on the same page and that we're making sure the needs are being met there and we can agree upon things. So that's very important. And, like I said, future goals. Could you be planning trips together? Are you planning major life changing things together? Could be wedding, could be getting married, right? Could you be having kids? So are these things that you guys agree upon for future goals, those things you want to make sure you're on the same page about? Okay, number four set priorities. You have to prioritize the areas you want to address first. You don't need to cover everything all at once. You can't with the most pressing issues and just expand from there.

Speaker 1: 4:03

Okay Five be specific as well. Use the type of language that and examples in the contract. You kind of want to avoid vague terms like be more considerate and instead specify actions like checking with each other's feelings daily. Make sure you're still on the same page. You want to make sure that Nothing has shifted or changed and if it does, it's okay, because we're all human and you just want to check and that's why you just want to make sure that mentally daily hey, what's going on? Are we still good? You know we're okay. Right, those are things to consider as well.

Speaker 1: 4:49

Number six address individual needs. Consider each partner's individual needs and desires and, like I said, that also includes intimacy and things like that you want to make sure that those needs and desires are being met as well, and vice versa, on each. You know each of you, each part. The contract should reflect what's important to each of you, while also accommodating the needs of the relationship as a whole. Okay, Number seven be realistic.

Speaker 1: 5:25

You have to set realistic expectations. While it is so important to aim for growth and improvement, ensure that the terms of the contract are attainable. You don't want to, you know, set something or just speak out and say, okay, well, you know, I want to do X, y and Z and you aren't able to achieve that goal yourself. So why would you set that expectation on your partner to achieve? You kind of want to make sure that it's realistic, it's not very outlandish, okay, so you want to put you don't want to put a higher standard on your partner that you're not willing to do yourself. That's all I'm saying. Just don't do that. Also, last but not least, we're gonna stop.

Speaker 1: 6:13

Here is number eight. You want to establish guidelines for, create clear guidelines for how you will handle disagreements and conflicts, define the process for addressing issues and finding resolutions, because when it comes to disagreements and conflicts, it's one of those things in relationships where it can take such a toll on you very. It weighs on you very heavy and sometimes you can carry resentment towards someone. You don't want to do that. You want to be clear and you want to speak to each to one another in a way that it's you're creating a resolution for it, not making it worse than what it is okay. So, like I said, define the process of addressing these issues.

Speaker 1: 7:05

What's a better way? Are you someone that can walk away and come back later and have that conversation after a blow-up? Or are you someone and is you know where? You know that you can talk about it right then and there and you want to make sure how your partner is? Is he someone that can walk away and say you know, I just need to breathe it? Let's revisit this in about 30 minutes, I'll come back, or let's revisit this tomorrow. What is a better way for you guys? To make sure that you are coming to it together, coming to this agreement together so that you can have a positive resolution. Okay, so that will will stop here, put a pin in it and we will continue the rest of everything on the next episode and that will be our final.

Speaker 1: 7:57

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