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The Final Episode The Power of Relationship Contracts

• KLove • Season 1 • Episode 22

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Reignite the spark of a past love or redefine your current relationship with the strategic use of relationship contracts, an approach we dissect with fervor in our latest podcast episode. I'm K Love, your guide through the intricacies of crafting agreements that lay the groundwork for clear intentions, mutual goals, and a rejuvenated partnership. We tackle everything from addressing unresolved issues to incorporating practical legal considerations. With a helping hand from therapists or counselors, we reveal how to create a bespoke contract that's not just a document, but a living, breathing blueprint for your romantic journey.

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Hey, hey, hey, loves. Welcome to another episode of Love, our Talks, the podcast where we dive into all things juicy about love, dating, relationships, entertainment and wellness. I am your host, kayla, and as we draw the curtain on this episode and segment of the Power of Relationship Contracts, I'd like to emphasize on some crucial points here. When it comes to employing a relationship contract, there are scenarios where it can be incredibly beneficial, particularly in the case of rekindling a connection with someone from your past. Okay, let's just say you had a history with someone and, for various reasons, it didn't work out in the past. Now they've returned back into your life and you're contemplating giving them, giving the relationship another shot. This is where a relationship contract can serve as a vital tool. Okay, kind of like a security blanket. So if someone has a history of coming in and out of your life repeatedly, it raises legitimate concerns about whether they might do it again. Right, think about it Now. A relationship contract can help address these concerns by fostering commitment and accountability. It's not a formal marriage proposal, right, but rather a starting point for honesty, truthfulness and a renewed commitment. Now, by entering into a relationship contract, both parties can openly discuss what went wrong in the past and set new goals for the relationship going forward. It prompts important questions like what are our intentions this time and what are we working towards together? This level of clarity can be invaluable in preventing a recurrence of past issues. So, in essence, a relationship contract can act as a guiding document for the relationship, ensuring that both individuals are on the same page and committed to making it work this time around. It's a very powerful tool for setting expectations, like I said, fostering open communication and ultimately strengthening the foundation of the relationship. So if you find yourself in a situation where you're considering giving a past relationship another chance, my advice to you is don't underestimate the value of a relationship contract. It can be the key to building a more intentional and successful partnership. Now you know that this is time. You can say you've definitely given it all you got. You can say that now you have done the old way and now you're going to try a new way and let's see if it works, all right. So let me continue to give you the final nuggets to prepare you for this relationship contract. All right, let's jump right in. I think we stopped at number eight, so let's jump back in and we're going to start at number nine.

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You want to include positive aspects. So don't focus solely on potential problems or conflicts. Include positive aspects of your relationship, such as shared interests, values and aspirations. Number ten seek professional guidance. You want to consider involving a therapist or counselor, especially if you're dealing with complex issues. If it's challenging to reach an agreement, sometimes having a mediator to seek both sides of an issue can be very beneficial. Just say some people think that just because you talk to a third party or a therapist or a counselor or someone like that, that something is mentally wrong with you. No, that's not the case. It's actually helpful because you can get a lot of your points across and there's someone else who understands to relay that message to your partner, because sometimes we can say things and people don't interpret it the way we meant them to, but sometimes it takes another person to help break that down, to relay that message to someone else.

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Number eleven flexibility and revision. Understand that the contract should be flexible as your relationship evolves, be prepared to revise and update it to reflect your changing needs and circumstances. Now, as we all grow in life, things change, so can this. We're all human and we're shifting each and every day, right? So let's be mindful of that Number.

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Twelve legal considerations. If you're considering including legal aspects such as financial agreements, you want to consult a legal professional to ensure everything is handled correctly. Thirteen you want to sign and date it. Once this contract is finalized, both partners should sign and date it. This formalizes your commitment to the terms you've agreed upon. Now, just because this is a contract and it sounds like a business, this is something that you have in writing to fall back on in case you need it and as we all have busy lives and don't remember every word and every conversation from the day on, this is to help keep you on the same track to your goals as a couple. It just helps as a reminder to go back and revisit it what you talked about and the promises that you made to one another. Now, fourteen you want to also include regular check-ins. Do a regular check-ins to review the contract and discuss whether it's still serving its purpose. Use these meetings as opportunities to make any necessary adjustments. It doesn't mean this has to be set in stone to end. All be all Again. Like I said, this is flexible and can be adjusted at any given time whenever it's needed.

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Thirteen emotional support. Remember that a contract should also include emotional support clauses. Touch each other's feelings and provide reassurance that you're working together to strengthen the relationship. You're not each other's enemies, you're working together, okay, number sixteen privacy. Decide whether the contract will remain private or you'll share it with a trusted third party, such as a therapist. Privacy can be crucial for some couples. You know you don't want to just go out there and start telling everybody, or friends and family or people hey, yeah, I got this relationship contract with this person. Just kind of keep that private, unless you're including a third party, someone that can actually help with you guys' relationship. You know someone that can help benefit you guys. So, yeah, seventeen be patient.

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Creating a customized relationship contract is a process that may take time. Be patient with yourselves and with each other as you work through the details. Remember that the goal of a relationship contract is to enhance your relationship's health and happiness. It should reflect the unique dynamics, challenges and aspirations of your partnership and it should ultimately serve as a tool for growth and understanding and mutual respect. And so that's it, thank you.

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So, when it comes to with this relationship contract, you really want to make sure that, like I said, you're working together with this, you're not each other's enemies. I think this is a great, really great tool to use for couples, especially if you are re-entering a relationship that you've had in the past. So I really, really, really appreciate everyone for supporting this topic, particularly because I've seen the amount of downloads that it's had, and this is, I guess, a very interesting topic that people want to know about and that's not being talked about. So, and if this helps, you definitely leave a comment or let me know that you are taking interest in this or what your thoughts are. You know, I would love to hear from you, okay. So, yeah, I would love to hear from you.

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