Sis! Are You Blocking Your Own Blessings In Love?

Are you unintentionally blocking your own blessings in love? Join me, K-Love, on this eye-opening episode of "Love, Our Talks," where we explore the ways we might be sabotaging our own love lives without even realizing it. From the infamous bad boy syndrome to the pitfalls of staying in unhealthy relationships too long, we'll uncover some hard truths about the decisions we make out of fear rather than genuine desire. We’ll delve into the critical aspects that form the foundation of a healthy relationship, such as respect, compatibility, and communication, and emphasize that while excitement can be thrilling, it doesn't necessarily equate to lasting love.

 Whether you're stuck in a cycle of bad choices or just want to elevate your relationship game, this episode is your guide to confronting your love life with honesty and courage. Tune in, and let's transform your love life together!

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:24

Hey, loves, welcome to another captivating episode of Love, our Talks, the podcast where we dive into all things juicy, I'm your host, k-love, and today our topic love struggles. Is it you, boo Sis? Are you blocking your own blessings and love? Could you be sabotaging your own love life? Hmm, that's something to think about, right? So you think you want to be in a relationship, yet nothing you do seems to turn out that way. When this keeps happening and there's no visible reason for it, you may want to consider that you're ruining things all by yourself. There are various ways that this can be done without you even seeing it. So, girl, let's talk about this.

Speaker 1: 1:19

You always pick the wrong guy. Huh, it may be that you have a bad boy syndrome which keeps you from ever choosing the right man for you Do? The guys you date all seem to treat you like something that they scraped off the bottom of their shoe, yet you still stay. It may be that you give all the power in a relationship to every single guy you get involved with, which means he dictates how the relationship will go. Or maybe you zero in on guys that aren't emotionally available or they just won't commit, while these guys may be exciting and unpredictable and even freaking phenomenal in bed. They're not going to stay with you, and you actually know that from the jump. Oh honey, excitement doesn't equal love, and it's time to recognize the difference. Another way that you're putting obstacles in your path to true love is by staying in bad relationships far too long. Okay, these are the ones where you know you need to leave because you're not getting what you deserve from it. Sad thing is that you come up with all these excuses in the world as to why you're staying in this relationship and you tell yourself that you know it'll get better. You know it'll get better. I'm so hopeful or he'll change. Yeah, he'll change. See, love doesn't justify being unhappy Now. Yes, love is very important, but you need other things to make a relationship successful. You need things like respect, compatibility, honor and communication. That's just to name a few. When there's real love in a relationship, all of the rest will be there as well.

Speaker 1: 3:19

One of the biggest ways to sabotage your relationships is when you base your decisions from a place of fear. Rather than doing something because it's what you want to, you do it because you feel you must. Ok, you're afraid that if you do what your intention is telling you to do that you won't have the relationship and the life you truly want. You understand that by confronting things that upset you or make you unhappy, then you may have to make some hard decisions. So you just clam up instead of just speaking up. Important questions are avoided because you're not sure you want to know the freaking truth. That's why you bury your head in the sand rather than just acknowledging all of the warning signs that you see around. You See, the most hindering aspect of your fear is that you actually you're actually the one that's afraid to commit to someone. Now, granted commitment can be a freaking scary thing because, after all, you're pledging yourself to one man for the rest of your life. I mean, that's enough to scare anyone. Now, however, the thing to remember is that when you find the man that offers you everything you want in a relationship offers you everything you want in a relationship You'll be more open to putting away all of your fears and opening yourself up to a commitment.

Speaker 1: 4:57

Now I want to get a little deeper, so let's dive a little deeper. Sis, are you holding on to old baggage, because we all have some right, but are you letting yours dictate your present? Maybe you've been hurt before and now you have a wall up. I mean a wall that's 10 feet high and it's thicker than a castle Right. See, past pain can have a way of creeping into your current situation, your current relationships. It's just. It makes you doubt every good thing that comes your way that comes your way. It's time to let it go and give someone new, give them a fair chance.

Speaker 1: 5:52

And let's not forget about self-love. Are you really taking care of yourself or are you looking for someone else to fill those gaps? See, when you truly love yourself, you set higher standards and you won't settle for less than you deserve. You got to take yourself out, spoil yourself and know your worth, because a queen deserves a king who recognizes her value, not someone who will diminish it.

Speaker 1: 6:16

So next time you find yourself wondering why love isn't working out, take a step back and look at your own actions. It's not always about finding the right person. Sometimes it's about becoming the right person. You deserve a love that's deep, fulfilling and true. Don't let your own actions be the reason you miss out on it, right?

Speaker 1: 6:44

So I just want to end there and I want to thank you guys. So, so, so much for listening, and that wraps up our episode for today, and I want to know your take on it. I want to hear from you, I want to hear your feedback, whether it's good or bad, and if you've enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave your comments. Leave a review to also help others find our podcast on Spotify, itunes, iheartradio, google Podcasts and, of course, facebook. You can also tune in and watch full episodes along with my guest co-host Caprice, on YouTube for more juicy topics like this. I again want to thank you all for joining me today. I love seeing the listeners out there from far and near, and until next time. We love our talks. I am your host, k. Love and remember. Each day holds the promise of a new beginning. So be better, do better, love harder than you, than the day before, because your best days they're not behind you, they're being written today. So keep moving forward because your potential is limitless. All right, love you guys. Till next time. Bye.