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"Love vs. In Love: What’s the Difference"

• KLove • Season 2 • Episode 15

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Have you ever wondered the difference between loving someone and being in love with them? Join me on Love Our Talks as I unravel this intriguing distinction using a metaphor from my own marriage. Imagine love as the deep roots of a tree, providing stability and support, while being in love is like the vibrant branches and leaves that bring color and excitement. I'll share personal insights on nurturing both these aspects for a truly fulfilling relationship, emphasizing the importance of communication to maintain that connection and keep the in-love spark alive.

So grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let's embark on this heartfelt journey through love and new beginnings together.

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Speaker 1:

Hey, loves, welcome back to Love Our Talks, the podcast where we dive into all things juicy about love, relationships and everything in between. I'm your host, kayla, and today we're talking about a topic that gets thrown around all the time, but I don't think people really dig into the difference. So we're breaking down what it means to love someone versus being in love with someone. So the topic today is love versus in love and what's the difference? So go ahead, grab your wine, your tea, coffee, whatever makes you feel good, because I've got mine. So let's go ahead and let's jump right on into it. So now let's start with love. You know, love is deep. Love is real and is often the foundation of any strong relationship. You can love your family, love your friends and, yes, love your friends and, yes, love your partner. You know it's about caring, support and having someone's back through the ups and the downs of life.

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But here's where it gets pretty tricky. Just because you love someone doesn't always mean you're in love with them. Now, being in love is different. That's where the chemistry, the passion and you know that spark, that's where that comes in, it's the butterflies in the stomach, it's that magnetic pull where you're drawn to that person emotionally and physically. You know this being in love is intense and it's what often gets people into relationships in the first place. But the truth is being in love is like a flame. You know, it burns hot right In the beginning. It burns so hot. But if you don't tend to it it can fade. And that's where a lot of people get caught up, thinking that when the passion dies down, the love is gone, when in fact it's just evolved. So here's the real team. You can love someone without being in love with them, and that's why some relationships feel more like partnerships or friendships as time goes on, like partnerships or friendships as time goes on. And on the flip side, you can be in love with someone and not have that deep, steady foundation of love to carry you through the hard times. That's why relationships needs it needs both, you know.

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Think of love as the roots of a tree. The roots of a tree, it's what holds you down, keeps you stable, right, and being in love are the branches and the leaves. You know they're long, they're strong and it's beautiful, it's what people see, but without those strong roots it can't survive the storms. You can't build a relationship just on passion alone. But you also can't ignore the need for that emotional and physical connection. So how do you know the difference?

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When you love someone, you care for their well-being first right. You respect them and you want the best for them. You're also committed to them, even when things are always perfect. But when you're in love there's an emotional intensity, a desire to be close together, to grow together, to be vulnerable and to share all parts of yourself with them. And here's a little nugget of wisdom.

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You know, for my people out there, you can fall in and out of love, of being in love. But real love can stand. It can withstand those waves. It grows and it changes as life happens. You know, if you can nurture both love and being in love, that's where you find that long, lasting, fulfilling relationship.

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See, my husband and I's journey hasn't always been perfect, but here's the truth that I'm at. We found a balance between loving each other and being in love with one another. There were times when we weren't connecting on that level, but you know what? Love held us together until we could find that spark again, that in love spark again. And that's what makes a relationship last. It's not just about the good times or when everything's so smooth. It's about sticking together through the storms and then coming out stronger.

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So, whether you're just questioning your own relationship or you're just trying to understand the difference, just remember this Love is the steady heartbeat that keeps things alive, and being in love is the excitement that keeps things fresh. You know they're both important, but they're not the same thing. Okay, they're not the same thing. So now that you kind of know the difference, with that, I'm hoping that this gives some type of clarity, because sometimes you can, you know, wonder. You know you've been with someone for so long and you can wonder why. You know you're having a disconnected feeling to them, right, and that disconnection could be that you do love them. That's the connector, but that disconnect, the feel, that means that that could be that the in love and being in love. It's a little disconnect there. So you just have to figure out how you connect the two back together the love and being in love. You link them back together. Two back together the love and being in love. You link them back together. Where there's a will, there's a way, right, okay.

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So whether that's, you know, doing certain activities together, whether that's having conversations about this particular topic, I think you know you have to be open with each other and you have to communicate. You know communication is key and when you do, communicate how you really feel, that could help you not to fall apart where you lost being in love and you lost the love. So you don't want it to get to that far where you lost both. So if you know you still have love for them and you don't really plan on going anywhere because that love is strong, but you just don't know how to get that in love back, I suggest that you have a conversation. Let them know, because you can be walking around. That person could be walking around unaware.

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Everybody's busy in life. Everybody has a lot on their mind, a lot of things going on, whether it's health-wise, whether it's work-wise, whether it's other outside friendships stuff, circles, family, whatever. We all have a lot going on and sometimes, unless our partners pull us aside and we have that downtime to talk about certain things, that person will never know that you're feeling disconnected. So, like I said, I suggest you having that conversation be upfront, open and vulnerable with them and let them know this is coming from a place of love and that you want to fix it. You want to work on your relationship together. So I would suggest that you do that and I want to thank you guys for listening to this podcast today.

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Thank you for joining me and that's the love talk for today. Reflect on that, share with someone who you think might find this helpful and, as always, stay true to yourself, right? And I'm your host, kayla, and I'll catch you on the next episode and, until then, don't forget to like a podcast, share and subscribe, and let's keep the conversation going in the comments and on social media and let's discuss further. I mean, you can find more tips and advice for your relationship in my new book and you can buy it on Amazon. The physical copy, which is a paperback, is on Amazon. You can find Love's secret code. You can also download your copy today at the love place, and that is an ebook. And don't forget to follow on all social media platforms and Facebook. Like I said, love our talks and the more you support my podcast, the more we will keep bringing you relationship advice. And until next time, I'm K-Love and I'll see you on, like I said, on the next episode.

Speaker 1:

But real quick, just real quick. Just remember that each day holds the promise of a new beginning. So be better, do better, love harder than the day before. Because, guess what? Your best days aren't behind you, they're being written today. So keep moving forward, because your potential is limitless. All right, love you guys. Bye.