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When Sisterhood Turns Sour: Navigating Betrayal and Shifting Friendships
Sisterhood is supposed to be a sacred space of unwavering support and shared joy, but what happens when that bond turns brittle, and the very people who once cheered you on start resenting your success? This is a question I've grappled with for years, rooted in personal experiences of betrayal and shifting dynamics in friendships. Sharing my journey, I hope to resonate with those who've felt the sting of a sisterhood gone sour. You know that moment when the energy shifts, and the congratulations turn into a mere "oh, that's nice"? It's a pattern I've seen repeatedly, marking a transition from genuine camaraderie to cold indifference.
Join me, K-Love, as I unpack the emotional weight of these betrayals and the silent cracks that can form in even the strongest of friendships. Grab your drink of choice, settle in, and let's get into some real talk about when sisterhood turns sour.
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Hey, loves, welcome to another episode of Love, our Talks, the podcast where we dive into all things juicy about love, dating, relationships, entertainment and wellness. Look, I'm your host, k-love, and today, you know, we are diving into a good, good topic today, and it is called when Sisterhood Turns Sour. You know, man, I've been wanting to talk about this for quite some time, and it's been years, right? This is something that I've dealt with, this is something that I've experienced, right, and I'm sure you can relate. So I want you to grab your wine, coffee, tea, smoothie or whatever your drink of choice is, and sit back and relax, because today we're getting into some real talk. And this one right here, oh baby, this one has been sitting, like I said, heavy on my heart for years and I think it's overdue. Let me go ahead and talk about it. So, you know, I want to talk about something that, like I said, I know a lot of women can relate to, but you know, they don't always say out loud.
Speaker 1:When friendships, especially those deep sisterhood type friendships, turn sour, you know, when the support turns into shade, when the smiles don't quite reach the eyes anymore, right, and when you realize the person you once called your best friend is no longer rooting for you. Instead, they're sitting back watching you move forward and low-key resenting you for it. You know this episode is personal because I've lived this. I have been betrayed by more women than any man I've ever known. And that's just real. I'm just being honest. I'm just being honest and you know it does sadden me, but I know. You know you got to keep moving, you got to keep living life and you got to keep it going Right. So, like I said, let's be real. Women's friendships are supposed to be right, supposed to be this sacred thing right. The ride or die the girl like I got you, no matter what. You know we hype each other up, we cry together, we laugh until we just can't breathe.
Speaker 1:And then you know, one day something shifts, and maybe you don't even notice it at first, but slowly you start seeing the cracks. It starts with a vibe, like an energy that feels. You know it just feels different. You know you shared good news with them and instead of excitement you get a drive oh, that's cool. You know you hit a milestone and instead of a celebration you get silence. You sense the change, but you don't want to believe it, until one day that mask falls off and you realize this person. They ain't happy for you. They're mad, you're growing. They're mad, you're growing.
Speaker 1:You know, like I said, I've experienced this and I've been going through this for over 10 years. I've had best friends, women that I've trusted, women I let into my life, into my heart, my dreams, my struggles, who, like the minute they saw me advancing, started acting different. They saw me advancing, started acting different. And I'm not talking about one or two friendships, I'm talking about a pattern I kept seeing over and over again. And let me tell y'all about one situation that really stuck with me. You know it's just one story. You know I had this friend, my sis, right, or at least that's what I thought. You know we's just one story. You know I had this friend, my sis, right, or at least that's what I thought. You know we did everything together. We talked on the phone about every day for hours, okay, supported each other, showed up for each other.
Speaker 1:But the moment I started making moves, the moment my life started shifting in a direction, she wasn't ready for Baby. When I tell you, the energy changed quick and I remember sharing an achievement with her. You know something I had been working hard for Something I was proud of, and you know what I got in return? Not a congrats, not a girl. I'm so proud of you. No, it was not that. It was just a call oh that's nice. She hit me with the oh that's nice, oh, that's nice, Okay.
Speaker 1:And I felt that Because when you love someone, you ride for them, and you know when something ain't right. So over time she got more distant. She stopped supporting, start making little passive, aggressive comments, you know, start acting like my success was a personal attack on her and eventually we drifted apart and she just disappeared no explanation, no real falling out, no reason to fall out, just gone. And that you know y'all. That hurt, that hurt big time. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:So what I want to talk about is you know why this happens? Jealousy, competition and outgrowing friendships about? Is you know why this happens? Jealousy, competition and outgrowing friendships? Why do friendships that start with so much love and support turn into jealousy and resentment? See what I think is you know?
Speaker 1:Number one it's like some women don't know how to be happy for you when they're unhappy with themselves. Right, and a lot of times it ain't even about you, it's about them when someone isn't secure in their own journey. Watching you level up makes them feel like they're falling behind and instead of using that as a motivation, they start resenting you for it. Another thing is some people feel abandoned when you grow. Not everyone is meant to go where you're going. That's facts. But that don't stop them from feeling some type of way right when you leave them behind. See, some people get comfortable with who you used to be, mm-hmm. And when you start changing, when you start growing, they take it personal, like your growth is a rejection of them. And that ain't even the case, boo. That's not even the problem, but that's how they feel.
Speaker 1:And another thing is, you know, women have been conditioned to compete instead of uplift. That's been society for years, pitting women against each other, making us believe that there's only so much success, so much happiness and so much love to go around. So, instead of seeing your win as proof that it's possible all of us could do this, they see it as a threat, like you took something that could have been theirs, you know, and that mindset, that mindset is what ruins friendships. Yeah, so what I've learned is that you know I got to start start protecting my peace, so I suggest you do the same. And in that, what do you do? How do you deal with the pain of losing friendships you thought would last forever? How do you deal with that?
Speaker 1:You know, one thing is recognizing the signs early. You know if you feel a shift in energy, pay attention to that, don't ignore it and don't make excuses for it either, because your intuition, it's not lying to you at all. You know how they say women's intuition. Trust and believe your gut feeling. Okay, yeah, trust that. And then another thing is stop trying to fix a one sided friendship. If you're the only one clapping, supporting or showing up, it's time to step back, because friendships should be mutual. It's nothing solo about that at all. Another thing is be okay with outgrowing people Because, like I said, everybody ain't meant to come with you on your journey of leveling up, and that's okay.
Speaker 1:Growth requires letting go sometimes. And here's the last thing, like I said, protect your peace. Not every friendship deserves a confrontation. You don't have to be all in a phase saying certain things to them. And why are you doing this and making it a whole thing? Sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away, just quietly walk away. And you do still wish them well in life from a distance. You just have to. You can love from a distance and that's okay. Yes, man y'all. Like I said, this one has been heavy. This was a heavy one, but if you have been through this, if you've lost friendships that you thought would last forever, just know this you are not alone and you don't have to shrink yourself to keep people around, the right people, I mean the real ones. They will never be threatened by your growth or your success.
Speaker 1:And I want to hear from you, you know, because, like I said, I'm not the only one that's gone through this, and if you've experienced this too, have you, you know, let me know. If you lost a best friend, okay, and how are you dealing with it? How did you handle it when you were leveling up, when you were growing right? How did they handle your success? So, whether you DM us, dm the show, and let me, let's talk about this, let's talk. You know, I want to hear your success. So, whether you DM us, dm the show, and let me, let's talk about this, let's talk.
Speaker 1:You know, I want to hear your comments, you know, like I said, and another thing is share this with somebody else who might want to hear this or who needs to hear this? Because, I promise you, somebody out there is going through it right now. Because, I promise you, somebody out there is going through it right now the same thing and wondering if it's just me and sis, it ain't just you. It's not All right. So until next time, take care of yourself, protect your energy as well and keep growing. Don't let nobody stop you from that. Don't shrink yourself. Don't let nobody stop you from doing it. Okay, so, all right, and that wraps up today's episode.
Speaker 1:You want to come back and check out our next episode, because we're going to, like I said, we're going to continue this. This is a six parts, this is a series, and it's six parts to this, with this whole series about sisterhood and how things have turned sour, how friendships have gone bad. Come back, because we have more to talk about. So we'll have five more episodes to do with this series. Okay, I just wanted to make it quick, you know like not long and drawn out, so I just did six, okay, so definitely come back so that you, you know, you can get more information, we can talk more about this and if you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a comment, like I said, leave a review and share this with someone else.
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