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Loving People From a Distance!

• KLove • Season 2 • Episode 23

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Loving from a distance is a powerful act of self-preservation that requires emotional strength and genuine self-love. Setting boundaries with those who repeatedly hurt you or drain your energy isn't about being bitter or holding grudges—it's about protecting your peace while still caring about them.

• Not everyone you love needs to have access to your life, heart, or peace
• Distance becomes necessary when you've been hurt repeatedly by the same person
• Some people don't respect your growth and may even resent your changes
• Love without boundaries can become toxic and harmful to your wellbeing
• Boundaries don't mean loving less—they mean loving smarter
• Being clear about why you need distance helps maintain your resolve
• Don't feel guilty about protecting your energy and emotional limits
• Maintain kindness without deep engagement
• Let go of fantasies about who you wish people were
• Emotional stress from difficult relationships manifests as physical health problems
• Peace is the proof that distancing was the right decision

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Speaker 1:

Hey, hey, hey, loves. Welcome back to another episode of Love Our Talks. I am your host, k-love. It's where we dive into all things juicy about love, dating, entertainment, wellness okay, so we are diving into something so deep. Today we're talking about something that takes maturity, emotional strength and real self-love yes, real self-love.

Speaker 1:

We're talking about loving people from a distance, because the truth is not everyone you love needs to have access to your life, your heart or your peace, because sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is love someone without sitting at their table, answering their calls or letting them live rent-free in your mind. Now you still care, yeah, and you still wish them well, but for your own protection, you got to keep your distance. So we want to talk about what it means to really like love from a distance. And loving from a distance doesn't mean that you're bitter. No, not at all. It doesn't mean you're holding a grudge. It means you've accepted someone for who they are and what they're not, and you're choosing peace over proximity. It means saying, hey look, I love you, but I won't let you drain me and I care about you, but I can't keep putting myself in harm's way emotionally, yeah. So why distance is sometimes necessary, one thing being because you've been hurt way too many times from that friend, that sibling, that family member who keeps crossing the same line over and over again and at some point you stop waiting for them to change and start changing the level of access they have to you. You got to do that. The second thing is because people, they don't respect your growth. No, some people don't grow with you and, worse, they resent the fact that you're changing, you're growing. They don't like that. You can still love them, but you don't need to shrink yourself to stay close. You don't have to do that. The third thing is because love without boundaries see that becomes toxic. You can love someone deeply and still say I can't keep letting this energy into my space. Boundaries mean you love less. It don't mean that. Boundaries don't mean you love less. They just mean that you're loving smarter. That's all and it's okay.

Speaker 1:

So I want to tell you a little bit about a personal story. I have to give you just a little tidbit. But I had someone I love dearly. Right, we had history, you know just deep connections, so much we shared together. But every time we interacted it's like I left feeling drained, small or second guessing myself and I kept giving you know, chance after chance, hoping that they change. But and then one day I realized this love was costing me too much. So I just, you know, I just stopped arguing, I stopped trying to explain and I stepped back. You know I stepped back. It wasn't in anger, but it still, you know, it was in love, love for myself.

Speaker 1:

And let me tell you, choosing peace saved me. Yeah, because all that causes stress. It causes stress in your whole entire body, which you don't need to imbalance your body over someone else's stress. No. So how to love someone from a distance and still keep your peace? Let me tell you, let me give you the steps.

Speaker 1:

One thing is be clear about why you need distance, because it's not for them, it's for you. Get honest about how their presence affects your spirit, okay. Second thing is don't feel guilty about protecting your energy. You're not a bad person for creating space. You're a better person for honoring your emotional limits. Third thing is maintain kindness. Without engagement, you can still be civil, you can still smile, you can even say, hey, you know, I love you too, or hey, I love you, but that doesn't mean you have to engage like before. You know, just be kind but be firm, yeah. And the fourth thing is let go of that fantasy. See, we hold on to people because of you, know, because of who we wish they were, but when you love from a distance, you accept them for who they actually are and you move accordingly. That's up to you. Okay, let me just give you a little quote to hold on to, right? So distance doesn't mean disconnection, it actually means protection. You can love people without letting them sit in the front row of your life, without letting them sit in the front row of your life. See, peace is the proof that you made the right decision. Y'all, you made the right decision.

Speaker 1:

So if you have experienced any of these things with your family members, friends, close friends, like I said, I have definitely done it many times with people kind of like, mainly women in my life. Oddly right, but it's been mainly women in my life that I've experienced this way. And so I had to learn the hard way, okay, and my hard way was going through stress, ok, and my heart rate was going through stress and my body was taking the beating from all of that. And I think I've told you in my last episode I'm still getting back to recovering from a lot of that stress emotional stress but that emotional stress turns into physical because now it's affecting your physical. So just be mindful of how you interact with people, because certain people can be triggers to your emotional state of being. So I had to learn that the hard way.

Speaker 1:

Like I said, and um, if you take anything from this, please protect your peace and set boundaries with people. And um, if you know someone that's listening right now and thinking of someone that you had to like step away from, just know this. You are not wrong for protecting your heart. Loving from a distance is an act of grace. It means you're choosing to honor both your love and your limits.

Speaker 1:

Like I said, you may know someone that's going through something like this or what have you? Share this podcast with them? Ok, because this could actually help someone out. It can help save their life. You know, literally, because stress is that silent killer and emotional stress. You don't even sometimes really realize that you actually are internalizing this emotional stress. So, share this podcast and, yeah, let's talk about it. If you had, I would share your story with me. I want to hear you know. You can DM me, definitely, facebook. Love our talks. Dm me, leave your comments. I want to hear back from you. Yes, I definitely would love to hear back from you. I definitely would love to hear back from you.

Speaker 1:

Again, we are still gearing up to our episode that we're going to be doing. It's not going to be live, but it will be pre-recorded, with one of our guests on the show. So I am super excited about all of that that's coming up. So I'm hoping that you continue to tune in and I want to give a shout out to everyone that listens to the podcast, because your support means a lot.

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And when I tell you guys, when I see that this podcast, love Our Talks, is getting recognized all over the world, it's literally all over the world. We have people listening over in Paris, france, y'all. We have people in Dubai, we have people in Australia. When I tell you it's all over the world, it literally is. We are touching people all over the world and the message that we put out here with Love Our Talks is helping people. So spread the word, get it out there more. Again, love our talks. I am your host, k Love, and I'm super excited for everything that we have coming up. So continue to tune in on your favorite streaming platforms Until next time. We want you to continue to put love out there and continue to grow in love. Protect your peace Again. Love with boundaries All right, and I'll see you next time. We love our talks, bye.