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“Blood Made Us Related, But Loyalty Made Us Family”

• KLove • Season 3 • Episode 1

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We kick off Season 3 of Love Our Talks  with a deeply personal topic that many of us carry in silence – the complicated relationship between blood family and chosen family. Family wounds cut differently, especially when we realize those sharing our DNA aren't genuinely in our corner.

• Blood made us related, but loyalty makes us family
• The deepest wounds often come from people who share our last name
• Some relatives only love the broken version of you that needed them
• Family isn't just blood, it's behavior – how they speak about you when you're not in the room
• People with the same last name don't automatically guarantee real love
• You didn't lose them – they lost access to your light
• Chosen family is sacred, healing, and represents real love
• Protect your peace, even from people who raised you

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Speaker 1:

Welcome, welcome back you guys. I am so, so excited. I'm so super excited, okay, because, guess what? We are kicking off season three today. Man, I can't be happier, you guys, to have gotten this far, my goodness, thank you, thank you, thank you so much. I want to say thank you to everyone that has tuned in to listen to my podcast, that has supported the podcast, that has shared the podcast, all of these things, because without you y'all, I wouldn't keep doing this. Right, because I know that my podcast is reaching people, it is touching people, it is making a difference in people's lives. So, thank you, thank you, thank you so very much, okay, thank you. Yes, and we are still the podcast in season three. We're still going to talk about love, relationships, dating, wellness and a little bit of entertainment as well. Also, with this season, we're going to go deeper, like, we're going even deeper. We're talking about real talk, real healing and real elevation. All right, look, I'm your host, k Love, your certified matchmaker and love advisor.

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And today, today's episode, is personal. Yes, it is really personal, powerful and something so many of us carry in silence. Yes, I'm talking about blood made us related, but loyalty, that's what makes us family, yes, so let's go ahead, let's get on into it, because here's the thing you don't get to choose your bloodline, but you do get to choose who you call family. And just because we share DNA doesn't mean we share values, it doesn't mean we share vision and it doesn't mean we share love, because some of the deepest wounds I've ever had to deal and heal from didn't come from strangers. They came from people who shared my last name, people who watched me grow up, held me as a child and later held In their heart. Y'all Right there I'm not going to cry. I'm not going to cry right now, because that's deep, that is so deep, mmm, mmm.

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There's a pain that hits different when you realize Someone in your own family was never really there for you, never rooting for you, never had your back. They were silently competing, you know, secretly comparing and secretly jealous. Because the moment you start to shine, step into your purpose and do what God called you to do, and suddenly they go distant, they downplay your wins, they question your elevation, they throw slick comments out there and act like you're the one who changed. But here's the truth and I want you to hear me with your spirit. Okay, I want you to listen. Hear me with your spirit.

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Family isn't just blood, it's behavior. It's how they speak about you when you're not in the room. It's whether they clap when you win or cringe in silence. It's how they support your healing, not just when you know. They handle you when you're hurt or you're.

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You know things of that nature, because some relatives only love the version of you that was broken, that needed them, that stayed small, but the moment you started rising, they felt threatened instead of proud. Y'all. I got so many experiences. That's happened to me and I can recall, you know, when I started acting. You know it was the oh, I'm so happy for you. Yeah, let's, you know, do this, let's do that. And you know, at that time, of course, I'm always appreciative of the love that I honestly thought I was getting at the time. I honestly, really, really really thought they were supporting me.

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Love can blind you, y'all. Love can blind you If you are that type of person, right, like me, I do wear my heart on my sleeve, but I am cautious, right. I don't just walk around and just openly like, hey, here's my heart. I got to get to know you first, right, and then that's when it's out there, my heart is just open, right. But here's the thing.

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Growing up, I literally thought, because we're family, you're going to love me, because that's what we're supposed to do. And the kicker is, this is the kicker y'all. My real last name is love. My mom's name is love. That's my family's name. This is not a made up name. This is not for show. This is not a name that I made up just because I'm an actor. I made up just because I'm an actor. No, this is my God-given last name. I was born with this last name love. And so, with that being said, as a reminder that that four-letter word is powerful, right, you would think that that would be a reminder for everyone in the family that, hey, we really should love. Let's, you know, live up to this last name really. And so, in my mind, growing up, that is literally what I thought. That is literally what I carry in my heart. What I carry in my heart, even though I grew up them calling me names.

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I didn't really get it until, like, I got older. You know, the thing is like I said, when I was started acting, you know, I thought they were supporting me. I thought that this was real love and it was fun, it was all cool and everything at the time we would, you know, little did I know that deep down in someone's body, spirit, heart or whatever you want to call it, there was secret jealousy, there was secret hate. You know they were carrying something deep down that they didn't show. Well, I didn't see it Until now, until as of late, yes, so I say all that to say is that, you know, be careful and keep your eyes open and, you know, pay attention to the smallest of signs.

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Because that's what I didn't do. I missed the signs, but then I think back. Maybe I saw some signs, because you know, it's like. Now I think back and I'm like, wait a minute, is that why they said that? Is that why she acted like that? Is that why they were doing that? It makes you think after the fact. Right, you reflect, so yeah, so yeah, just keep your eyes open and just know that who you are, and if you're someone like me that loves deeply for the people that you say you love and you care about, and you're loyal to those people, everybody's not going to be like you. And I had to learn that I really did, yeah, and so now I have to let that go. I have to let go of the guilt, the pressure to stay connected just because it's family, because family should never feel like an emotional warfare, never.

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So start honoring the people who show up for you with pure love, the ones who don't need to be related to feel, you know, responsible for your peace, the ones who celebrate your growth without competition. Those are the people God sent to cover you. Okay, because chosen family with the same last name. Yeah, with the same last name. Yeah, because the people that you, you know you didn't get to choose these people with the same last name, but the chosen family, the ones that you chose to have, and you say these are the people that I want to have as my family, your chosen family. See, that's sacred, that's healing and that's real love. That's real love. They don't need to be blood related. Okay, they don't. They don't. You don't have to grow up with them, you know, you know. So you don't have to grow up with them, you know. So keep that in mind.

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So, if you have been feeling heavy about family dynamics, if you've been questioning why certain people can't love you the way that you love them, remember this you didn't lose them. People can't love you the way that you love them. Remember this you didn't lose them. They lost access to your light, okay, and in this season, I need you to protect your peace, even from the people who raised you, who you grew up with, who you share your last name with, okay. Who you grew up with, who you share your last name with, okay.

Speaker 1:

So I'm your host, k Love, your certified matchmaker and love advisor, and this has been Love, our Talks. And make sure you share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, because so many people are out here hurting in silence and won't talk about it or admit it. Okay, they won't admit. That's what they're going through. Sometimes it can be embarrassing, sometimes it can hurt too bad to even speak about it out loud. But again, I am here, I am your host, I am your love advisor. You can reach out to me. You can find me on all your platforms, okay, all your social media platforms. Send me a DM and if you want to talk about it, let's do that. Okay, and until next time, take care of your heart and honor the love that honors you All. Right Bye.